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Neutral

Like I allude to in this week’s Dustinland comic, it’s so funny watching every parent try to raise their kid gender neutral. I tried with mine. You know, no pink or blue. Dolls or trucks. That sort of thing. It’s a nice thought. The funny part comes when you realize it doesn’t seem to matter much. Kids just gravitate toward what they want, no matter what you do.

I have a friend with two boys. He’s a big time comic book nerd. His boys are following in his footsteps. They then had a girl. Not only did they try to raise her gender neutral, if anything, she was surrounded by action figures and super heroes, so it was basically the reverse. The result? Today she won’t leave the house without a princess dress.

My kid was the same way. I never told him what to like. He just went for trains, trucks, “shooters” and every other cliche boy thing. There’s just something in there, in their DNA that makes boys and girls like certain things. It doesn’t mean we shouldn’t leave it up to them or that we shouldn’t fight against traditional gender stereotypes. That’s all good too. But future parents — be ready to not be too surprised.

The Long Hard Truth

Man, as I say in this week’s Dustinland comic, explaining stuff to your kids can take forever. Not science stuff. The sky is blue, that sort of thing? It’s pretty cut and dry most of the time. Either they get it or they don’t (or you know it or you don’t). Issues made more complex by society though — those are harder. Issues of gender, race and other human qualities are easy to talk about but hard to explain, which makes for lengthy, complicated conversations. On the plus side though, they do seem to lay bare prejudices, hypocrisy and all that’s silly and unfair in society — and maybe even in us as individuals. At the very least that’s pretty interesting.

Oh, and it can also be hilarious.